Are You Giving Yourself Enough Credit?

  • 29 Mar, 2016
I was a ballet dancer. I started dancing when I was 7 and went on to minor in dance in college. By the time I was in high school I was dancing 15-20 hours per week. I have put thousands of hours of practice and work into training for dance.Why am I telling you this?I have a picture in my room of myself posing En Pointe in my Swan Lake costume. The pose was a fairly easy one for me to do at the time. When my friends see it and remark about how impressive or cool it is that I could do that my res [...]
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I was a ballet dancer.
I started dancing when I was 7 and went on to minor in dance in college. By the time I was in high school I was dancing 15-20 hours per week. I have put thousands of hours of practice and work into training for dance.
Why am I telling you this?
I have a picture in my room of myself posing En Pointe in my Swan Lake costume. The pose was a fairly easy one for me to do at the time. When my friends see it and remark about how impressive or cool it is that I could do that my response used to be to shrug and say "it's actually not that hard".

Which is ridiculous because it is that hard.

I trained for 11 years to get to the point where that was "easy", and now that I'm a few years out of practice it would be very difficult and even a bit dangerous for me to try it. I needed to learn to acknowledge and appreciate the effort and work that went into my expertise in order to not take it for granted.

Now I'm at it again.
I have been formulating skin care products for over three years now, and it is something that comes very naturally to me. When I first started letting people try my products I didn't have a very big appreciation for them because they had been "easy" to make.

When friends and family raved about how much they loved it I would just shrug and say thanks, but not really be willing to take any credit. After all, it was easy, and it can only be considered great if it was hard (I'm rolling my eyes at my past self right now). 

So, what is it that makes it easy?
I have a degree in Biochemistry
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That's right, I spent my college career developing an intimate knowledge of the tiny mechanisms and molecular machines that exist in our bodies.

In addition to knowledge, I got years of practical experience in setting up an experiment and predicting how certain products will interact with each other. I learned how to keep a pristine lab/work space, how to create an accurate formula that would be consistent every time I make it, and how to accurately make tweaks to the formula to create desired changes.

I gained the ability to take meticulous notes of my formulation process so I could easily replicate or troubleshoot a recipe. This took hours and hours of trial and error out of my process.
My mother was in the food industry.
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My mom was registered dietician throughout my childhood and I got experience working in several commercial kitchens helping her with various jobs. I learned techniques for heating and mixing butters and oils to give a smooth consistency. I learned how to set up a Good Manufacturing Procedure that would create consistency, safety and quality in my creation process.

My biochemistry degree gave me extensive practical experience in formulating products. My experience in kitchen brought artistry to the process so that I could create something that gives great results, and is a pleasure to use.
I love learning
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Of my top five strengths in the Gallup Strength test, three of them have to do with learning and gathering information. I love to learn, it doesn't matter what I'm learning, I just love the process of learning something new.

When I first began growing my business I had a business coach who encouraged me to think about all of the work that has gone into me becoming an expert at what I do. So I started paying attention to that.

I realized that I spend several hours a week researching ingredients, techniques and natural health care just because it's fun for me and I like doing it. I didn't consider those hours to be work because I would do them even if I didn't have a business. Those hours of study allow me to make superior products.
It's Fun
My job is so rewarding.

Every time a customer contacts me to say they finally have relief for their baby's diaper rash, or that they get so much enjoyment out of using my products my day gets a little brighter.

One of my goals with Love-Essential Skin Care is to help people approach skin care from a place of love. I want people to feel pampered, loved and cared for when they use my products.

It took me too long to learn the concept of honoring and caring for myself, and now it is my desire to spread it to others through my company.
Why am I telling you this?
I know I'm not the only one who does this to herself.

I know that someone reading this article has strengths and abilities that she takes for granted.

I want to encourage you to celebrate yourself this week.

Think about everything that has contributed to your successes.

Congratulate yourself and give yourself some credit for that.

I have a friend who says that the things that are easiest for us are the things we should get paid the most to do. They are easy because of the extensive work and effort that you have devoted to learning that skill.

So really think about it for a minute, or for a few days. What do you write off as not-a-big-deal that you can congratulate yourself for?

I would love to know what you discover when you spend some time contemplating this. Leave a comment and share with us something you want to give yourself some credit for.
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